Imagine This, will you?!
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One of the worst things about deciding to stop being a Stupid Drunk: The journey required, to discover Who You Really Are.
It is important to see a health care professional, if you are in the process of, or contemplating a lifestyle change of any kind. Especially if you are a Stupid Drunk, and plan on trying to stop drinking. You will need help through this. A well-trained person is going to recognize the wisdom in your plans, reserve judgement, be professional, and give you good guidance. If you happen to get a doctor who is a smug jerk, remind them that the only thing worse than a Stupid Drunk who is seeking counsel because they want to change, is a smug jerk with university credentials who thinks they are perfect. Then try and find another doctor. If you are a veteran, or an immediate family member of a veteran, (or even if you aren’t) I highly recommend checking out the resources via Military Onesource: see http://www.militaryonesource.mil/
One of the hallmarks of being a Stupid Drunk, is relentless selfishness.
When one is a Stupid Drunk, everything and everyone else around you, takes a back seat to you and your first love: booze.
One of the attractions to alcohol, is the continuity it provides. The relationship a Stupid Drunk has with alcohol, is probably the one, consistent thing in our lives. We can count on it being there when we go to sleep, and it will still be there, when we get up. However chaotic our world becomes, the one, solid thing a Stupid Drunk can rely upon, is alcohol.
Alcohol makes us feel better, at least for a while. We feel normal, or okay, or just better–with alcohol in our systems. Alcohol makes the Stupid Drunk feel like they are real, in control, and (if you can imagine it) not so stupid. Which proves that sometimes what we believe is true, isn’t. Just saying.
Though not always the case, the socialization shared among abusers and addicts is dynamic, and offers really messed-up support for bad choices and destructive behavior. It can become very cultish, like religion, almost. The Church of The Stupid Drunks. The only choice a Discovering Alcoholic has, is to revoke their own membership. You’ve tithed plenty, spent many hours voluntarily wasting money and time with vigorous dedication. Now, it is time to find a better way.
Being a Stupid Drunk is a selfish thing, and you want to stop it, now, and that is a good thing. But one of the first things you have to do now, is–and here’s the irony–become very selfish. For a while, anyway. In a completely different way than you have become accustomed.
Selfishness and Self-preservation are not the same things, really. Yes, they are related, but one is completely necessary. If you do not take care of yourself, you aren’t going to be around very long (either in jail, or dead, or some limbo-hell in between). Now is the time to find out what you are made of, and who you really are.
We are, in great measure, what we eat and drink. Not literally, of course. If I eat a radish, I am not a radish. What I mean, is, part of who we really are, hinges on how we treat ourselves. How we treat ourselves, gives other people a signal about how they can treat us, too. Think about that one, for a minute. How YOU treat you, signals to other people around you, what you will allow them to do or say to you.
So you must start treating yourself well, if you wish to be well. And it is a hell of a lot harder to do, than it sounds.
We are not just a body, or a mind, or a spirit. We are all three of those things, at once. Ignore one, you are disrespecting all three parts of you.
So, if you were kind-of, sort-of, a ‘good’ Stupid Drunk, and ate real food regularly, with balanced nutrition, and drank plenty of water (aside from the water content that may be in your booze of choice), you will have a head-start.
If you have been depriving yourself of proper nutrition (deliberately or consequentially–sometimes it is a choice of whether or not to eat, or get drunk. I know. I’ve been there), then you have a lot of work to do.
When you quit drinking, you Discover that, just as your spirit and mind have enormous hurdles to overcome, your physical body does, too.
WHO ARE YOU?
H20: You are water.
“H20″ = 2 atoms of Hydrogen, 1 of Oxygen, combined. Our human body is greater than 60% water. What happens when we stop replenishing water? In Part II, I mentioned that drinking enough real, plain water, is like putting the right fuel in your car: put something besides the right fuel in your vehicle, you are going to have mobility difficulties. Put enough fuel in the car, but forget to put oil in it, the car is going to break. That’s kind of what happens, when we stop giving our bodies enough water.
Our bodies, being marvelously made, have a built-in survival mode. Your body will do whatever it needs to do, in order to try and prevent the inevitable. Your body will begin to siphon water from wherever it can get it, and that means cannibalizing parts of the body, in an effort to get enough of what it needs to remain alive.
If our bodies are at least 60% H20, that means there’s a lot of parts of our body that require water. Our organs–heart, brain, lungs, kidneys, eyes, even skin–in normal conditions, have lots of moisture. Can’t have blood to pump, if it is dried up. We need fluid. And, it has to be the right fluid. Anti-freeze is fluid, but if you consume it, it can kill you. The right fluid for our bodies is just plain water.
Alcohol dehydrates. One of the reasons heavy drinkers look older than they are, is because their bodies are in constant-survival-mode. Survival-mode takes up a lot of energy, and a lot of fluid. You’ve heard it said of drinkers: “he/she looks Rough.” Well, little wonder, why.
Once a Stupid Drunk begins the journey to be not a Stupid Drunk, your body will go through another battle of sorts: getting accustomed to being treated properly. Everything from our bowels to our eyesight can experience odd, sometimes traumatic readjustments. I lost control of my bowels for about a week, when I first stopped drinking booze, and started drinking water. My body didn’t know how to react, suddenly being properly hydrated. It really sucked, was embarrassing, and I am only sharing this with you to let you know that the process isn’t without its serious moments of “ugh.” Also, my vision was blurry, off and on, for about 6 months’ straight. Just for example. Not everyone experiences the same, weird symptoms. I’m just letting you know that you should expect some odd things to happen, and that medical professionals can help you manage and cope, as you experience these things. It is doubly important to have medical professionals in the loop, because sometimes weird symptoms are indicative of life-threatening problems that might not have anything to do with drinking, or quitting. I hope you are paying attention.
The strain drunks place on, especially their vital organs, creates sometimes irreversible damage. I won’t go into the frightening details. If you want to know, ask your doctor, and look it up. Here’s a link: http://www.abc.net.au/science/articles/2012/02/28/3441707.htm (ABC Science website has a lot of interesting stuff. Check it out.)
Don’t like plain water? Well, tough. Your body does, and needs it. Grow up. If you don’t take care of the drought you’ve created by being a Stupid Drunk, the other things you need to do to make you better, are not going to be as effective, or effective at all. You’ll be gravely ill, or just in a grave.
So, now you know that in part, you are what you drink, it is time to examine the idea that who we are, is determined in part, by what we eat, or not. If you eat junk, you will feel like junk, and have the life-expectancy of junk. If you don’t eat at all, or binge-eat, you will suffer the effects, too.
Here’s an almost fool-proof healthy diet:
ALWAYS check with a health care professional before you start or stop a diet, or a habit (including addictive substance usage and abuse, starting or stopping exercise, etc. In fact, I’m suggesting you ignore everything I write except the advice to seek professional, medical guidance, before anything else.)
DISCOVERING ALCOHOLIC DIET: ROY G BIV
If you have ignored my italicized message above, stop and read it. Now. Just appease me. Okay. Here it is:
ROY G BIV: is an acronym, that stands for the colors of the spectrum. Think, “Rainbow Diet.”
I am sure you are wondering what ROY G BIV has to do with diet, or anything else. Well, it is like this: as a Stupid Drunk, you haven’t only deprived yourself of proper hydration, but also nutrition.
Your journey to recovery, or, as I like to call it, “Discovery”, does not have a chance in hell of success, unless you start treating yourself right. If your brain is distracted because it is in survival-mode, thanks to your body being in major crisis, because it is desperately trying to find nutrition and hydration to function at the most base levels, quitting drinking isn’t going to last long, or you will end up dead, or worse than dead, still alive, but all stroked-out or something.
One of the things that ROY G BIV can do, is offer itself as a template of sorts, to guide you in consumption of adequate nutrition.
The natural world is full of color. One of the reasons things are colored the color they are, is because of what they are made of: various elements and water, just like we are.
One of the reasons a diet with lots of variety is good for us, is because different foods have nutrients which are specific to them. For example, a ripe, yellow banana has potassium, but a brown prune has a lot more potassium per volume, than a banana does. Oranges are loaded with vitamin C, a steak does not.
*NOTE: Stuff that is color-enhanced or artificially colored, has no place in this particular template. No food mentioned below, should be artificially colored. Color-enhanced food may look pretty, but it is trickery and a marketing tool, which does little or nothing, and sometimes bad things, to your diet.
If you eat daily, at least one food item from each of the ROY G BIV categories, it is highly likely you will help yourself a lot more, than eating from a fast-food restaurant, drive-through, discount-menu. Eating healthy can cost more sometimes, but what you save, may be your own life and sanity.
The following is NOT a complete list of foods, just some examples, for ROY G BIV:
RED – while some meats are ‘red’, even most professionals agree that red-meat consumption ought to be kept to a minimum or avoided all together. I suggest that if you do like red meat, exercise portion control, moderate the frequency of consumption, and watch how your red meat is prepared. If you like everything deep-fried, you may want to challenge yourself, and find new ways to prepare your meat.
I should also mention here, that staying away from fried foods is a biggie. Your body is trying to recover and heal any damage done. Eating ROY G BIV, but frying everything, is counterproductive, and as stupid as being a Stupid Drunk is. Stay away from fried food. if you must have fried food in your diet, regulate the intake.
If you are cheese lover, you have to realize that cheese, however yummy and versatile, is mostly fat, and not the good kind. Go easy on the cheese, whatever color it is.
ROY G BIV–EXAMPLES:
Berries, Apples, Tomatoes, Potatoes, Peppers, Beans, etc. Reds are common, and there are lots of things which you can eat that are good for you, and naturally red.
Oranges, Squashes, Carrots, Mangos, Canalope, Beans, Peppers, etc.
I’d be amiss if I didn’t touch on the subject of juices. There’s a sort of cultish bunch who are Juicing Nuts. I agree that juicing–be it orange juice, or other fruit & vegetable juices, have some healthy benefits (not the least of which, is making more palatable, foods you might not normally eat). But juicing can be overdone. Juice is the extraction of moisture content of a food, and may or may not contain parts of the fruit or vegetable flesh, seeds, etc. It requires a lot of pieces of whatever it is being juiced, to make just a glassful. There’s a reason that just juice as a product by itself, doesn’t grow on trees. While the juice has nutrients, the source of the juice tells a bigger story. Orange juice is good for you. A whole orange is better for you. Why? For starters, the flesh of the orange is nutritious, too. And it provides fiber, which is good for helping our intestines move waste along. I’m not sure if there is a correlation, but you may be able to relate: I can’t drink straight orange juice, even though I’m fond of it. I get horrible indigestion, and acid-reflux. But I can eat a whole orange, and have no gastrointestinal problems. I do not know why, and have been meaning to ask my doctor about it.
Juice can contain a lot of natural sugars, too. Since it takes many pieces of some fruits, to make a glass of juice, you are consuming all the sugars from multiple pieces of fruit, and robbing yourself of the rest of the benefits that come from consuming the whole food. Make sense? My point is, juice is good, but moderation where juice is consumed is a good idea. Try eating a carrot, a whole one, and not just the juice, alone. (Though Carrot Juice is absolutely divine, in my opinion.)
YELLOW: Bananas, Lemons, Squashes, Beans, Grains, Cake, (Just kidding about the cake.Trying to see if you are paying attention. Cake can be yellow, but moderation is key, when it comes to cake.)
ALSO: Foods that are really light, or even white, can fall under the ‘yellow’ category. Items to consider: Potatoes, Squashes, Grains, Beans, etc.
GREEN: Leafy Vegetables (Lettuce, Kale, Mustard Greens, etc.), Celery, Melons, Limes, and other fruits, Beans, etc.
BLUE: Berries, Fruits–grapes, plums, etc., Beans (some beans, and other foods that are dark, can fall into the BIV, or Blue_Indigo-Violet categories).
INDIGO and VIOLET:
Fruits like berries, Vegetables like Beets, Beans, Potatoes, Grains, sometimes corn, etc. Indigo is a deep, dark blue, Violet a light or very deep purple, and both very pretty. A lot of dark foods, fall into the Blue, Indigo, Violet categories.
By trying ROY G BIV as a diet, you will Discover a lot of foods you have never tried before, and discover you actually like. You might also confirm your dislikes, too. I hate tapioca. I can’t stand the stuff. Oatmeal, too, is something I find hard to swallow. It isn’t so bad if it is in other things, but generally, I stay away from it.
In the natural world, some foods are more than just one color. Take radishes, for example. Some radishes are all white. Some radishes are a stunning shade of bright red, and white on the inside. Such a radish would fall under the category of RY, or Red and Yellow, in the ROY G BIV spectrum of things to eat.
Another example: the Eggplant. Eggplant can be all white. But I like the ones that are bright, shiny black. It is actually a deep, deep, purple color, and they are white or light yellow, on the inside. Eggplant falls under YIV, or Yellow-Indigo-Violet, in ROY G BIV. Do you see where I am going with this?
Now that you have an idea about eating healthier, and making your diet actually interesting even fun for a change, you have the power to control when you eat, and how much, every bit as what you eat.
ROY G BIV MANTRA:
“HONOR YOUR HUNGER, RESPECT WHEN YOU ARE SATED”
When you are hungry, your body sends signals. When you are no longer hungry, unless you’ve stuffed yourself full by overeating, you may not recognize that it is okay to stop eating. This seems especially true in places where food is plentiful, and the culture is “food-centric”–food is not only central to health and nutrition, but is part of the way people socialize. Eating for some is a form of recreation.
To be “sated” means to be satisfied. Many people would do well to acquaint themselves with their own bodies, by paying attention to this phenomenon of satisfaction. Addicts, in particular, have a lot of trouble with this one.
If you are hungry, eat. Eat good food, until you are no longer hungry. DO NOT keep eating, just to finish your plate, or because you are bored. If you are concerned that you might get hungry later, stop worrying about it. Because the rule is: Eat when you are hungry, stop when you aren’t. Being FULL is not the same thing as being sated. Sated means you are no longer hungry. Being full means you have overeaten. And that is hard on your body. Your body has to deal with excess food, just as it does, excess booze.
If you get hungry 5 times a day, eat something, 5 times a day.
I know that traditional American diet has a love affair with the “3 meals a day” ideology. Part of the problem of obesity in this country, in my opinion only (and I will say it again, I’m not an expert about food and nutrition, or anyone, really. Just a Discovering Alcoholic, finding my way, and sharing what works for me as I go along,) is, while the food pyramid is a nice thing, and 3 meals a day sounds logical, the 3 meals-method is woefully inept and unrealistic.
This is due in part to the lack of proper nutrition, I’m thinking.
People who overeat are not getting proper nutrition. I’ll write it down again, for posterity: People who Overeat, are not getting proper nutrition.
Even if they are overweight, or obese, over-eaters usually don’t over-eat on a wide variety of whole, natural foods that are good for them, but on crap. If they are binger-overeaters, and like to purge themselves, they are in worse shape than regular over-eaters are, and are as badly off as a Stupid Drunk.
Loosing weight is sometimes very successful, just by making friends with the right kind of food.
Under-eaters do not get adequate nutrition, either. But most people do understand this. There’s those who deliberately starve themselves, because they, like a lot of over-eaters, may have a genuine eating disability.
There are under-eaters who don’t eat enough of anything, because they are too busy drinking booze. Often (but not always), these will eat only when they absolutely must, or someone makes them eat, and eat stuff that is more hazardous than helpful. Their bodies begin to cannibalize, and serious health problems and death are eminent.
Over-eating and Under-eating is often indicative of poverty. This is a conversation that needs addressing in a format all its own, and shouted from rooftops around the globe. Poverty, especially abject poverty, is a killer. If a person has access only to food that isn’t good for them, like in rural areas where I come from, despite all of the farms in the area, starvation and obesity have dual residency. Especially if a person who is very poor, is also disabled, and has limited or no mobility means. If very poor people have land or enough minimal resources to grow their own food, even just enough to sustain their household, it is possible to have a healthy diet. If these are entirely reliant on others for their physical care, due to paralysis or disease or debilitating sickness, and those in charge of the care cannot or will not aid in good nutrition, these folks are in a dark, dark place. And since everyone knows that misery loves company, when one is miserable because they feel hopeless, stuck, and see no way out, they will often resort to coping methods that don’t really help anyone to actually cope well or at all: they will take-up drinking and using or abusing other drugs. To try and forget or distance themselves from, realities they can’t do anything about. It is not an excuse for their bad choices, but it is a legitimate reason. Again, poverty and poor nutrition, while relevant to the struggle of recovery and discovery, is a subject that requires its own format. I mention it here, because there are lots of people who are Stupid Drunks, that are so, because they are so poor they don’t know what else to do. There will be some that turn up their nose, and poo-poo this, no doubt. They will argue that if Stupid Drunks would stop wasting resources on being Stupid Drunks, and use what little resources they have on better things, like finding employment, or if they are poor but employed, getting a hobby or something useful, they would be happier, healthier people, and not parasites to the rest of society. While there’s truth in part, to what they say, things are not as simple as that, for most people. Very few people would fit that ideology. But I will save my poverty rant for another time.
The next thing to ask is: WHERE ARE YOU HEADED?
Change…radical change, can mean a lot of struggles.
The good news is, you are still alive, and that means you have options.
Separation anxiety, from substances, from culture (friends, family, events which foster recreational or habitual substance use/abuse) is a biggie.
What to do?
Make a list of things you have entertained throughout your life, that you wanted to try or do. Then, pick one, and go for it. If you don’t know how to start, the library is a good place to start. So is the internet.
Find out who is doing what you want to do. Ask them how they got started.
For example, let’s say you are a business person, but have always wanted to work in construction. Contact those who do it for a living. Then, to make sure that’s what you really want to do, volunteer. Stop rolling your eyes. Volunteering is a great way to see if you are a good fit. It broadens your social circle. And if you are volunteering, you can be helping someone, rather than sitting around thinking too much. Habitat For Humanity does construction work, and they help people who need places to live.
The worst thing you can do, is isolate yourself, and become a zombie who feels sorry for themselves all the time. If there’s one thing you must remember, remember this: Time’s a tickin’.
What time left we have is hinged upon the moment we take our last breath. Don’t spend the rest of your time on the planet being useless. We are all going to die. Might as well die trying, at least, to do some good.
This concludes How To Stop Being A Useless Drunk.
Thanks for reading. Hope it helps, a little.
Honesty Litmus Test–check. Starting Time Countdown: 0.00
Session begins: Now It’s Time To Start: Stop Being A Stupid Drunk
Now that you’ve been confronted with brutal honesty, it’s time to take the next step towards stepping out of the drunk-zone, and into real life.
By now, if you’ve made any effort at all to stop drinking, you’ll notice strange things happening within and around you. Some of these things may or may not be actually happening.
That’s because aside from your body and your mind, for those of you who can admit to it, your soul & spirit, have been forcibly drowning.
When your being is so routinely immersed in substances, in this case, alcohol, it is a lot like taking a tub of water, and bobbing your head beneath it to muffle the constant noise coming from another room. Sure, you come up for air, but back into the water you plunge, before your hair has a chance to dry.
One of the things booze does, is it interrupts the natural and vital, systematic routine your body’s vital organs do.
It’s a little like having a brand-new car. With this new car, you take extraordinary care to maintain it in every way, except adding oil.
It does not matter how many times you wash & wax the vehicle. Doesn’t matter what sort of fancy tires you have on it. Doesn’t even matter if you keep the gas tank filled. If you ignore the signs that your car is in distress because it needs oil, your brand-new car is going to get very broken, and that’s expensive.
Same is true for your body, mind, soul & spirit.
If you ignore the needs of the whole you by drinking booze, you will stop working properly, and get broken. Maybe even dead.
If not dead-dead, parts of you will die, and over time, so will the rest of you die.
You cannot keep dunking your head under water; you cannot keep ignoring the warning signals that something just isn’t okay. I’m not scolding, here. I’m saying, pay attention. PAY ATTENTION.
If you are ready to pay attention, you may notice that recognizing signs like tremors, fleeting thoughts, lack of focus, physical pain, bouts of vertigo (dizziness, unaccounted-for clumsiness), visual or auditory hallucinations (seeing stuff out of the corners of your eyes, hearing things, for example), lack of sleep, too much sleep, vomiting, diarrhea, muscle spasms, heart palpitations, and any other signs or symptoms, should not be ignored.
I cannot emphasize enough the importance to seek medical help. Withdraw from substances has been known to be deadly, if not properly supervised. And there is help out there. In an emergency, dial 911. Otherwise, call your doctor, and have a frank discussion with her or him about where you are at, and what your goal is, and you need their valued advice. You do not have to go through this, alone.
Depression very well may play a bigger role in what you’ve been doing to the whole you, than you ever thought. It may be the reason you started abusing alcohol in the first place. You started using it, for recreation and socialization. Then, it became the (or one of the) drugs of choice, to help you cope with depression.
(Depression will be discussed more extensively in Part IV: The Great Exchange: Deep, Dark Thoughts vs Light of Day.)
For now, you need to realize there’s things that have to change immediately. Whatever maintenance plan you’ve been using on you, clearly is deficit. It ain’t working. Your car needs oil, so-to-speak.
1. Take notes of symptoms (such as any mentioned above, or any that is not listed, but ought to be. Not everyone experiences all of the same symptoms. And this list you make, may help someone else going through their own hell, down the road.)
2. Talk to a medical professional. Seek emergency help, if necessary. There’s confidentiality laws, so unless you are an imminent danger to someone else or threatening suicide, there’s a reasonable expectation of privacy from professionals.
3. Changes ASAP: Intake & Consumption:
INTAKE: You cannot keep drinking, even a little, and think it’s going to be okay. And you will find yourself having an internal dialogue that will justify why you can or cannot have a drink. Most often, this comes in the form of Procrastination: “Tomorrow I’ll Quit”, and Justification: “But this is a Special Occasion” or Irrational Excuse: “This has been the shittiest day of my life.” You reading this may have other experiences that facilitate and justify ‘one more for the sober-road’. Please feel free to share ‘em if you got ‘em.
CONSUMPTION: If you don’t quit consuming the wrong things, you are the one that’s going to be consumed.
CONSUMPTION: You must start giving your car oil! In other words, if you don’t start consuming the right things (whether or not you quit drinking yet), you are doing very real, maybe permanent damage to you. This impedes recovery like you wouldn’t believe. Or maybe you do, because you are nodding your head while you read this, partially paralyzed from a stroke, or some other thing brought about because of negligence and destructive behavior.
INTAKE & CONSUMPTION:
You have to eat. You have to eat the right things. You have to drink. You have to drink the right things.
What happens when you put something other than gasoline in the gas tank of your car, like, say, sugar?
That’s right! Serious problems.
Same thing’s true when we put the wrong things into our whole selves. What goes in, must come out.
So, the next part, Part III: WHO ARE YOU? will be about what is good to eat, drink, permit and refrain from.
Tags: AA, Alcoholism, Booze, Discovery, Litmus Test, Pity Partier, Quitter, RichStine, SMART Recovery, Stupid Drunk
The first thing that comes to my mind, reading the title of this posting: Is there such a thing as a “Smart Drunk”?
With that out of the way, let’s examine the proposition.
If you are reading this, you may be a stupid drunk, once were one, or know a stupid drunk. Of course, you may just be one of my polite semi-regular visitors, or curious lurker, reading on, to avoid being bored with something else. If that’s so, thanks for reading. I appreciate it.
So far, I fall under, “once were one”. I used to be a stupid drunk. Therefore, I am in a uniquely qualified position to offer some tips about how to stop being a stupid drunk.
My ideas about how to do this successfully are as valid as any, and they may or may not prove useful. We are all different, we humans. What works for some, may not work for others. But I’ve Discovered a few things that are absolutely essential for anyone who’s remotely serious about wanting to stop being a stupid drunk. They are as follows:
1. Be Honest With Yourself. This is imperative. There’s little indicators that anyone who is a stupid drunk acknowledges as true, which act as a sort of Litmus Test http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/litmus%20test , to determine definitively whether or not we are, in fact, stupid drunks.
- If you think about having a cold one or something with alcohol in it, almost from the time you awaken until you actually drink, you are a stupid drunk. Not all stupid drunks are that obsessed. Sometimes they drink only on occasion, or only weekends. A sort of internally agreed-upon ‘routine’:
- If you have a drinking ‘routine’, and that routine routinely results in drinking until you are drunk, you are a stupid drunk. You may or may not remember with any sort of accuracy what transpired during Stupid Drunk Mode. Some do, some do not. Doesn’t matter. Still a stupid drunk.
That doesn’t necessarily mean you are an alcoholic. Not all stupid drunks are alcoholics. Not all alcoholics are stupid drunks. Yes, this truth is messier, because things seem more manageable if we can compartmentalize. Separate the wheat from the chaff a bit, and have only two categories: “Us” and, “Them”. But the reality of the Human Condition in general, is never that simple.
To ignore the obvious–the Litmus Test–makes a stupid drunk, even more stupid. It’s a fact.
If you are a stupid drunk, and you want to stop being a stupid drunk, regardless of whether or not you are an alcoholic (yes, alcoholics can and do stop being stupid drunks every day), Honesty is Key. Denial by Procrastination = Perpetually Stupid Drunk.
If you know that you have been a stupid drunk for a while, I suggest getting in touch with health care professionals. If you are addicted to alcohol, and just quit drinking ‘cold turkey’, that can be very dangerous. Even fatal.
What sucks about wanting to stop, wanting help: Stigma. A lot of people who want to quit, are afraid to seek the help they need, for fear of losing their jobs, reputation, etc. A bummer, yes. But the good news is, there’s places like AA (http://www.aa.org/), and a place I like, S.M.A.R.T. (http://www.smartrecovery.org/), which can even help the serious seekers with stigma issues, as well as how to deal with the physical, emotional, mental crap that quitters like me definitely will experience. Not “IF” but “Will”. And it’s painful. It’s important that I point out the necessity for some to seek medical assistance during initial phase of quitting, because there is such a thing as a Stupid Quitter.
However well-intended and laudable the goal is, quitting stupidly if one is a chronic alcoholic or chronic, stupid drunk, can have the desired result…but dying is a stupid way to quit drinking.
So, first steps to stop being a Stupid Drunk:
- Take Litmus Test
- Seek guidance from professionals. You can do it anonymously on line (see links above).
Part II: It’s Time To Start
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Hello my smattering of occasional readers, drop-in-ies, and WordPress Blog Lurkers:
I’m in the slow and painstaking process of cleaning this blog up before posting further items.I have changed the theme, thanks to WordPress, and to a certain historian/author named Dr. Mike Dash, whose blog is a Real Winner (not just my opinion. He’s won awards and recognition for his uniquely qualified blogs, and rightly so. I do not know Dr. Dash but through his works. I became an instant fan of his books some time ago, and have been putting myself in the fiscal hole buying copies of them to give as gifts. Stumbling upon his WordPress Blog, is a lucky keystroke and a search engine result. There’s links available to his blog, but for easy access I’ll give you this link: http://allkindsofhistory.wordpress.com/
I really wanted to use a different theme than the same one he, and no doubt, a few other WordPress bloggers use. I’ve tried a variety of themes, and so far, this one seems to be the one I’m having the most luck at navigating. This is in no way a reflection on the designs or designers of other WordPress Blog Themes. I’m just not a very good blogger at present, as blogging is a new territory for me. What is the saying? Imitation is a high form of flattery? I do hope those using this particular theme, “GreyZed”, are familiar with the saying…
I am OPEN to any suggestions, criticisms, and knowledgeable input and feedback. If this turns out to be a really great or cool blog down the line, I’ll be sure and give credit where and to whom it is due.
Thanks for your patience, and for visiting here, today.
Ninth-century Scandinavia has had good press in recent years. As late as the 1950s, when Kirk Douglas filmed his notorious clunker The Vikings—a movie that featured lashings of fire and pillage, not to mention Tony Curtis clad in an ahistorical and buttocks-skimming leather jerkin—most popular histories still cast the Denmark and Norway of the Dark Ages as nations overflowing with bloodthirsty warriors who were much given to…